Heat Awareness

Thankfully, summer is not far away now at least in the northern hemisphere. Increasingly summers are hotter and drier. So it’s a good time to have the National Heat Awareness Day. It’s celebrated on the last Friday of May and so this year falls on 27 May.  

The idea of the day is to alert employers and the public about the largely preventable health dangers connected to summer heat. This is all the more important for anyone who is vulnerable or works outside as they are candidates for sunburn, heat exhaustion, dehydration, heatstroke and even death. It’s not just manual workers, but children, the elderly, anyone with certain chronic medical conditions and pregnant women need to take precautions.

So what can you do if you know it’s going to be hot? Well, the most important thing is to stay well hydrated. Drink water regularly and carry some with you in case your plans change. Also, if you can, avoid going outside at the hottest part of the day and limit your activity. As Sam Keen (American Author) put it, “Deep summer is when laziness finds respectability”.

An anti skin cancer campaign, popular in Australia and New Zealand in the 1980s provides very good advice. Originally just “slip, slop, slap” (slip on a shirt, slop on sunscreen, and slap on a hat) it has since been expanded to the 5 S’s sun safe measures.

  • Slip on a shirt.
  • Slop on SPF 30+ broad spectrum UVA sunscreen
  • Slap on a wide brimmed hat.
  • Slide on quality sunglasses.
  • Shade from the sun where possible.

Another factor that you should be aware of is humidity or the amount of moisture in the air. High humidity will make the temperature feel warmer, as our sweat is slower to evaporate. This can makes it more likely that our bodies may overheat, we exhaust easily, and it poses a potential danger to our health.

And now, a few words on sunscreen and SPF (Sun Protection Factor) values. In theory, combined with the “burn time” (how long you can be in the sun before burning), it will allow you calculate how long you can safely be in the sun. So, if the burn time is 10 minutes and you apply SPF 10 sunscreen you will safe in the sun for 100 minutes (10 times 10). In practice, this is only a guide, its dependent on your skin type (how fair or dark it is) and how well and completely the sunscream was applied. So, I think it’s better to regard the SPF number as a relative measure of the amount of sunburn protection provided. The higher the number the better the protection.

Finally, Baz Luhrmann (Australian Director, Writer and Producer) wrote a song about the importance of sunscreen. It also contains other excellent advice. It’s very much a philosophy to live your life by and I recommend it. Enjoy.


Men and Women

People in relationships often assume that their partners are like them. Indeed, perhaps that’s why they got together in the first place. But everyone is different and the difference between the genders is significant. Being aware of these differences, acknowledging them and working with them is an important key to a successful relationship. While you can make some minor changes to your partner, changing their nature is virtually impossible.

So what are the differences between men and women? The right half of the brain develops more quickly in girls than boys leading to reading and talking earlier as well as better vocabulary, vocal skills and memory. The left half of the brain develops quicker in boys leading to better visual and spatial skills, problem solving and physical skills. Generally, girls prefer toys with faces, such as dolls and stuffed animals whereas boys like blocks and things that can be manipulated.

And these changes continue into adolescence and adulthood. Women tend to be more holistic, creative and intuitive. While men tend to be analytical, rational and logical. As a result, men often have difficulty relating to their own feelings. This can mean they feel threatened by the expression of strong feelings and may cause them to react by withdrawing or attempting to control the situation. However, men are more at ease with their own anger, while women are not.

Women are in touch with a wider range of feelings than men, and the intensity of these feelings are usually greater. Consequently, many man perceive that women’s feelings appear to change quickly and so men may see this as irrational and difficult to understand. As Frank Sinatra (American Singer and Actor) said, “I’m supposed to have a Ph.D. on the subject of women. But the truth is I’ve flunked more often than not. I’m very fond of women; I admire them. But, like all men, I don’t understand them”.

When socialising, men will often do something at the same time, such as playing a sport or fishing. Women are more likely to just talk without doing an activity at the same time. Women tend to have more friends and a better support network. So, men are more vulnerable and dependent on relationships than women and are more devastated by their ending, as they have fewer friends and sources of emotional support.

Now, all these differences are a matter of degree and not absolute statements. But, whatever our gender identity, we are all a blend of masculine and feminine energies, and each has a role in helping us reach our highest potential.

If you and your partner are struggling, sadly I don’t offer marriage counselling. But a good place to start trying to resolve things might be to read the book ‘Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus’ (1992) written by American Author and Relationship Counsellor, John Gray. This explains in some detail the differences between the sexes and common misunderstandings and misperceptions.


Jazz Jennings

Jazz Jennings is an American YouTube personality, television personality, and LGBT rights activist.  Jennings is one of the youngest publicly documented people to identify as transgender. Jennings received media attention in 2007, aged just seven, when an interview with Barbara Walters aired on 20/20 and this led to more high profile interviews and appearances. She has since said, “Ever since I could form coherent thoughts, I knew I was a girl trapped inside a boy’s body. There was never any confusion in my mind. The confusing part was why no one else could see what was wrong.”

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Jennings has hosted a series of YouTube videos about her life, titled ‘I Am Jazz’. Jennings also stars in the TLC reality TV series, also called ‘I Am Jazz’. It focuses on her life with her family as a teenager and as a transgender youth. The series premiered in 2015 and the seventh season aired at the end of 2021.

In 2018, while trying to lose 30 pounds (14 kg) ahead of gender confirmation surgery, Jazz sought the help of a Hypnotherapist. Part of this treatment involved a past life progression session to get to the bottom of why she was struggling to lose weight. She experienced a past life where she had suffered persecution and starvation. 

As an experienced Hypnotherapist, I have a range of techniques and methods I can use to help you overcome ailments and conditions. One technique I specialise in, is regression. In its simplest form it’s where I guide you back in time to explore the root cause of a problem by unearthing forgotten memories stored in your subconscious.

However, a really powerful aspect of this technique is that the amount of time you can go back is not limited to this life time. This is due to genetic memory, soul memory and reincarnation. This means our subconscious minds contain memories of other lives we have lived. It likely you have lives many, many past lives.

I am a passionate advocate for past life regression and the healing and insight it can bring. As William Wordsworth (English Romantic Poet) said, “Life is divided into three terms – that which was, which is, and which will be. Let us learn from the past to profit by the present, and from the present, to live better in the future”.

In particular I use a past life regression methodology called Introspective Hypnosis. This combines several different common techniques including traditional Hypnosis, Forgiveness Therapy, Role Change, Past Life Regression and Spirit Assistance also known as Spirit Releasement.

If this something you are interested or feel you could benefit from then get in touch.


Quantum Healing Hypnosis Technique (QHHT)

I have written before about Dolores Cannon the pioneer of past life regression. This time I would like to talk about Quantum Healing Hypnosis Technique (QHHT). QHHT is Dolores’s own technique that uses hypnosis to achieve Quantum healing. Doing this you can visit past lives, future lives, life between lives, as well as forgotten memories from your current life.

Basically, the Hypnotherapist asks the subconscious of the client to reveal information that may be unknown to the conscious mind that will aid in healing and discovering the root cause of both mental and physical problems, illnesses and phobias.

QHHT is not based in any religion or culture. It simply allows for the conscious mind, through hypnosis, to make contact with the subconscious. As Deepak Chopra (Indian-born American author and alternative medicine advocate) said, “People need to know that they have all the tools within themselves. Self-awareness, which means awareness of their body, awareness of their mental space, awareness of their relationships – not only with each other, but with life and the ecosystem”.

In 1989 Deepak Chopra’s Quantum Healing: Exploring the Frontiers of Mind / Body Medicine was published. This was followed by Perfect Health: The Complete Mind / Body Guide in 1990. And it was in these books that Chopra coined the term “quantum healing”. Quantum healing is regarded as a form of alternative medicine. Practitioners of quantum healing state that quantum phenomena govern health and wellbeing.

QHHT is a form of past life regression and is a powerful technique to help the client access the part of ourselves that transcends many lives. This part of ourselves, as Dolores had learned, is ever present and exists just below the surface of our conscious mind, in the subconscious. It is called The Higher Self, The Over Soul, even just the Soul. When we reincarnate we don’t remember our previous lives, the life between lives and our connection to our soul family and the Source (or God). But using these techniques we can see and experience past and even future life.

Practitioners of her QHHT technique access to past lives and performs instantaneous healings when appropriate. If this is something you would be interested in then contact me.


Mindfulness 2

I wrote recently about mindfulness and its many benefits. A key part of mindfulness is connecting with our bodies and experience the sensations our environment offers us.  While this means exploring our senses, what we can feel or hear, it also means exploring our thoughts, feelings and emotions.

Setting aside some time for mindfulness is an opportunity to stop, take stock and notice what is happening to you in that moment both physically and emotionally. Once you have done this you can analyse what you are experiencing and why. As Leo Tolstoy (Russian Writer) said, “There is only one time that is important– Now! It is the most important time because it is the only time when we have any power.”

Now, there are four foundations of mindfulness – of the body, of feelings, of the mind and of Dhamma. That last one needs some explanation. There is no direct translation into English, it is normally translated as “righteousness”, “merit” or “religious and moral duties”.

So mindfulness of the body is quite straight forward. And is what many people imagine when they hear mindfulness. Focusing on different parts of your body and how they feel. Is there tension or pain? If so, why?

Mindfulness of feelings mainly refers to how one perceives feelings as pleasant, unpleasant or neutral. According to Bhikkhu Analayo (Buddhist Scholar), mindfulness of feelings “requires recognising the affective tone of present-moment experience, before the arisen feeling leads to mental reactions and elaborations.” It also requires that “one does not get carried away by the individual content of felt experience and instead directs awareness to the general character of experience”.

Mindfulness of the mind is about being aware of your emotions and how that may affect your state of mind. It is often defined as noticing the presence or absence of the three “unwholesome roots” (lust, anger, and delusion). But it is worth taking a wider view of your feelings and not just focusing on these three emotions.

Mindfulness of Dhamma is trickier to define and there is some debate amongst scholars as to how to define and translate it. But Analayo translates Dhamma as “mental factors and categories,” “classificatory schemes,” and “frameworks or points of reference to be applied during contemplation”. Broadly speaking it’s about being mindful of feelings and emotions such as desire (in all its forms), anger, sloth (torpor, mental dullness), unhappiness about past events (remorse, guilt) and doubts.  

For me mindfulness is about being aware of your environment and being aware of your thoughts and feelings. Basically, understanding why you have these feelings and analysing what makes you feel the way you do in that moment. Once you have this understanding it will provide insight, wisdom and provide ways to improve your life. It can lead to you acknowledging unwanted thoughts and sensations and dismissing them. It may reveal a way to discover and resolve unacknowledged problems and emotions.

Now all that may sound quite involved and complicated. But start small, by carving out some time to stop, relax and reflect on how you feel and build from there. If you need help or want to share your experiences then get in touch.


Teen Self Esteem

Being a teenager is not easy. You might think it is a care free, wonderful time, but you are probably looking back through adult eyes. During teenage years you are still emotionally, physically and mentally developing. You are vulnerable to peer and social pressure. This can make it a turbulent, confusing and uncertain time. It is also a key time for the development of self-esteem. May is National Teen Self-Esteem Month

So this is a time to make an extra effort to combat the self-worth, self-image and self-esteem problems teens face. It is sponsored by a non-profit organisation called, I Am Worth More. Their mission is to connect teens to resources, build their self-esteem and increase their positive entertainment consumption.

So if you have a teen in your life, what can you do? Well, be tolerant, forgiving and offer all the love you can. Help them and support them as they try to find their way. Set them on a path to realise their full potential. Inner strength and confidence needs time to grow and develop.

Understand how self-esteem develops is critical. A man’s sense of self is often heavily influenced by their ability to achieve and succeed. To feel good about himself, they must achieve goals by themselves, as this is a symbol of efficiency, power and competence. This is often career related. Generally, men are more interested in objects and things rather than people and feelings.

A woman’s sense of self is usually defined through their feelings and their relationships. They spend a lot of time supporting, nurturing and helping each other. They experience fulfilment through sharing, supporting and relating. Communication and personal expression, in terms of appearance and feelings, is also very important. Talking, sharing and relating is how a woman feels good about herself.

So anything that you can do to help them find a healthy sense of self-worth while they’re young will build a solid foundation for the future. Remember, the teens of today are the leaders, entrepreneurs, sport people, engineers, doctors, scientists and technological visionaries of tomorrow.

Teenagers can also help themselves to establish and maintain high self-esteem. The most important thing is for them to accept themselves as they are. Perhaps they are not going to be a soccer / footballer star or a super model, but they have strengths, talents to be proud of. Also, learning to love and be loved by those around them is key. Your family and friends will love you back. Finally, eating a healthy diet and taking regular exercise will help to stave off depression and keep them healthy.

Tyra Banks said, “I don’t have the best self-esteem; mine wavers month to month, but I know how to pick myself up”. And she is a successful model, businesswoman, producer, actress, and writer.

Hypnotherapy can help with boosting confidence, improving self-image and exploring the roots of any concerns. However, Hypnotherapy in children is a specialist area and one I do not have any experience in. So I only accept clients aged 18 or over. I can refer anyone under that age to a specialist child hypnotherapist. Get in touch to find out more.