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Internet self-care day

I wrote recently about self-care and while doing so I came across an interesting special day. 21 August is Internet Self Care day and it’s all about how to using the internet to find resources that can help you take care of yourself.

Self-care is not self-indulgence or being selfish. Self-care is all about taking care of yourself so that you are well and healthy. There are six main areas of self-care – emotional, physical, social, practical, mental, and spiritual well-being. Perhaps make a plan to do something in each area to improve your life.

Taking stock of your own needs, aspirations, health, and successes is part of self-care, as is taking time to nourish and nurture ourselves. Now the internet can be seen as a negative aspect of life, but as with many tools it all depends how you use it. So use the internet to find something to boost your self-care routine. Perhaps search for a product to help pamper yourself or something related to a passion or hobby you have. Perhaps research a course you want to take – perhaps a new hobby.

Is technology or the internet a source of negativity or frustration? For example, social media can be entertaining and allows self-expression, but it can also be toxic and be confusing or misleading. So think about how the internet impacts your life and ways to improve your self-care.

Self-care is crucial to wellbeing and good self-care can help to underpin your life and make you more resilient. As Alyssa Edwards (American drag performer, choreographer, and businessperson) said, “When I take good care of myself, it lifts my spirits, boosts my confidence, and makes me feel strong. When someone tries to throw me shade, it bounces right off. I look those haters straight in the eye, keep my chin up and shoulders back. Because I know I’m a fierce queen – and they know it, too”.

So, this Internet self-care day, make the internet work for you and do something to strengthen your self-care. If you need help or advice on self-care, then contact me.

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Never Give Up Day

Never Give Up Day is 18 August each year. This day is all about motivation. Motiving yourself, others or even your community. It’s also a day to remind us to keep striving, keep excelling and keep chasing our dreams and never give up on them.

The idea of motivation and the effect it has on our behaviour and brain has been studied and researched as far back as ancient Greece. And was an area of study of Plato and Aristotle. This was further built on in the modern renaissance by Rene Descartes.

The idea of motivation and the effect it has on our behaviour and brain has been studied and researched as far back as ancient Greece. And was an area of study of Plato and Aristotle. This was further built on in the modern renaissance by Rene Descartes.

Put simply motivation is defined as what explains why people (and animals) start, continue or stop a certain behaviour at a particular time. And if you think about it this is a very broad subject and one I find fascinating. I have written before about procrastination and how best to avoid it, Maslow hierarchy of needs and how it effects motivation and Brain Chemistry and the effect of Dopamine – the reward chemical. But I want to focus on achieving goals.

How do you feel about your goal? Do you feel obliged to do it? Changing the internal dialog can help. If you need to, or have to, do something that suggests you have no choice. Saying ‘I choose to’ do something means you own the task and are invested in it. When you have completed something, give yourself a small reward. Remember how it feels to have accomplished something – pride, relief, etc.

We all have times when we struggle with life’s challenges, but these times end. Don’t give up and you will get through it. If you know someone who is having a tough time, encourage them. Perhaps give them a call and tell them that they’re not alone.

If you are trying to motivation others, then praise, recognition and feedback are invaluable. As Dwight D. Eisenhower (American General and 34th President) said, “Motivation is the art of getting people to do what you want them to do because they want to do it”.

This day is a symbol of hope and a reminder that we all have a warrior inside of us. Remember why you started that something. So, never give up, keep going and achieve your goals.

And now a little treat. There are several songs that come to mind when I think about not giving up. I have chosen a relatively modern song by Sia called Never Give Up. A close second was Tubthumping, (aka I Get Knocked Down) by Chumbawamba. If you don’t know it, then google it. It’s not really a philosophy to live your life by, but inspirational nonetheless.

If you need help with motivation then Hypnotherapy can help. Contact me for more information.

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Mental Health First Aiders

I recently qualified as a Mental Health First Aider. The idea is to be a point of contact for any employee who is experiencing mental health issues or some form of emotional distress. Normally, this ranges from having a friendly chat through to directing them to expert, professional help and supporting someone while they get the help they need.

While I am a qualified hypnotherapist, it is not essential to have any former of prior healthcare training. Typically, Mental Health First Aiders are just regular employees and are not part of the management team or Personnel / Human Resources. This is very important as many employees can feel a sense of guilt or shame at admitting they are suffering with a mental health condition and organisational attitudes and culture can be less than ideal. I have written in the past about reluctance of people to seek help and the perceived stigma of suffering with mental health concerns.

Mental health has long been the Cinderella of the health services both within the National Health Service (NHS) and in the workplace. Being given equal status would be a significant step towards acceptance of mental health issues.

The statistics around mental health are frightening. It’s thought as many as one in six of people at work have symptoms of a mental health condition at any one time. A survey by MIND (UK mental health charity) found in 2018 that 50% of the 44,000 employees surveyed had suffered some form of mental health problems at some point. These conditions are typically, anxiety, stress, burnout and depression. If you suffer from any of these and feel that hypnotherapy can help you them contact me.

A government commissioned review, published in 2017, put the cost to the economy of these conditions at between £74bn and £99bn a year. Having a system to support employees is clearly the right thing to do and makes good business sense. It also fits with the employer’s duty of care. And, when people feel supported and valued, it contributes towards a motivated and efficient work force.

The employees of an organisation are its life blood. When we have a sense of well-being we function so much better. From a business perspective, it’s incredibly short-sighted to ignore mental health issues. As Richard Branson (British Entrepreneur) said, “By putting the employee first, the customer effectively comes first by default, and in the end, the shareholder comes first by default as well”.

Having Mental Health First Aiders is relatively new and so it’s unclear how effective they will be. If an employer used them as a tick box – ‘We really care, we have Mental Health First Aiders’, without addressing the underlying causes of health problems the initiative will be worthless. Furthermore, from a humane perspective, to be forever increasing pressure on employees and not properly caring for them seems immoral. It indicates that some companies think only of shareholder value, profits or service level agreements, which is very short sighted and is nothing short of foolish.