Don’t worry, I am not about to talk to you about finding your perfect partner. Well, I am, as it happens, but not directly.
We are all where we are now because of our thoughts and actions in the past. Now, we are constantly processing and thinking either consciously or subconsciously. The problem is we are often thinking more about things we don’t want rather than things we do want. It is understandable to sometimes have thoughts or concern about things that haven’t even happened yet. But this is largely unproductive and can even be damaging. Wouldn’t it be better to think about the exciting and wonderful things that you have or want?
When you dwell on unhappy or unpleasant things from our past, it means you aren’t feeling happy right now, which creates a depressing future. But we can attract whatever we want in life. Be it happiness, wealth, health, the perfect weight, love, and a wonderful relationships. This is called the Law of Attraction, a concept which William Walker Atkinson (American pioneer of the New Thought movement) wrote about in his, 1906, book ‘Thought Vibration or the Law of Attraction in the Thought World ‘.
Now, our mind can be our best friend but it also be our worse enemy. I have written before about self-sabotage. If we don’t control our mind and dwell on negative thoughts and feelings, it’ll become our worst enemy because it’ll manifests an unhappy future.
But, when we learn to control our minds more, it becomes our best friend and then we can start to create a positive future. Everyone has a mixture of happiness and sadness in their lives, but, remember, life is not happening to you, life is responding to you.
The process of Law of Attraction combine cognitive reframing techniques with affirmations and creative visualisation to replace self-limiting or destructive (negative) thoughts with empowering, adaptive (positive) thoughts.
Cognitive reframing is the process by which we change the way we look at a situation. It’s a cliché but, for example – when life gives you lemons, make lemonade. Cognitive reframing can work both ways though. Namely reframing to make something positive or reframing to make something negative. Imagine you meet a friend for a catch up after not seeing them for some time. You meet in a restaurant, have several drinks and a lovely meal. When the bill comes you friend insists on paying for everything. You feel happy and grateful to have such a great friend (positive view). But then you start thinking about how your friend has a well-paid job and how you sometimes struggle to make ends meet. Suddenly, you change the way that you think of this meal. Instead of a generous gift and a sign of friendship, you begin to think your friend thinks you are a charity case (negative view). This makes you angry, and you may begin avoiding your friend and hold resentment toward them.
Creative visualisation is the creation of autobiographical mental imagery. Essentially you visualise yourself in the desired circumstances (health, wealth, happiness, etc.). Combining these two techniques builds a powerful positive mind-set that will help you get what you want.
As Florence Scovel Shinn (American Artist) said, “Every great work, every big accomplishment, has been brought into manifestation through holding to the vision, and often just before the big achievement, comes apparent failure and discouragement”.