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Self-Love: Importance of Loving You

Self-Love

Do you like yourself? Do you love yourself? Strange questions perhaps but important ones. I don’t mean in the sense of being self-centred or selfish. If you think about what is to love someone else it is being supportive, considerate, tolerant, affectionate and concerned about their wellbeing. Self-love is all those things but about yourself. Are you supportive, considerate and tolerant of yourself? As Buddha (Spiritual leader) said, “You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection”.

I am not talking about self-care, which for me is more of a practical thing. Self-love is more a state of mind. Here are some ideas about showing yourself some love.

Do you like yourself? Do you love yourself? Strange questions perhaps but important ones. I don’t mean in the sense of being self-centred or selfish. If you think about what is to love someone else it is being supportive, considerate, tolerant, affectionate and concerned about their wellbeing. Self-love is all those things but about yourself. Are you supportive, considerate and tolerant of yourself? As Buddha (Spiritual leader) said, “You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection”.

Some ideas

I am not talking about self-care, which for me is more of a practical thing. Self-love is more a state of mind. Here are some ideas about showing yourself some love.

  • You are unique and different, so any comparison is not fair. As Theodore Roosevelt (American President) once said, “Comparison is the thief of joy.”
  • It’s a waste of energy to try to please everyone. Dita Von Teese (American dancer and businesswoman) put is very well, “You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, and there’s still going to be somebody who hates peaches.” 
  • Learn and grow from them and embrace your past (all of it). Do you recall the one (or maybe a few) times you did something that left you feeling regrettable, humiliated, or ashamed? Time to let go of that and move on.
  • This is a powerful truth and many things will try to convince you otherwise. Your body wasn’t made only to be aesthetically pleasing to the rest of the world. It is the most gorgeous and fantastic tool you will ever own. .
  • Protect your energy. It’s not wrong to remove yourself from situations or people that drain it.
  • Be fearless. Don’t ignore your fears — understand them. Interrogate and evaluate your fears to give you clarity and reveal the source of anxiety.
  • Your feelings are valid and you know yourself better than anyone else.
  • Carpe diem – seize the day
  • Women especially often take on a caring role, but remember to care for yourself first. Make time for yourself.
  • Speak up, join the conversation, give your thoughts freely and take action. Your contribution is just as important as anyone else’s.

  • You don’t have to be perfect. No one is perfect, be it in body, life, IQ, etc. The idea of perfection is an illusion and striving for it can cause serious health problems. Nobody is flawless.

  • Follow Your Passion. Make time to do the things you love or are passionate about.

Finally

Self-love is a dynamic and constantly evolving thing. It can take a lifetime to perfect and will likely require continuous practice. Be nice to yourself and persevere through the challenging moments, especially if you’re on the road to finding your passion.

I recently produced a mediation on self-love. Enjoy.

If you want so help or advice on self-love, then contact me.

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