As I have grown older, and hopefully wiser, I have realised that having well defined boundaries are critical to happiness and being fulfilled. Now, I am not talking about your garden fence, but rather the boundaries that exist within our personal relationships and interaction. Having good boundaries are essential to being healthy both mentally and emotionally.
So what is a boundary? Well it’s a real or imagined line that marks the edge or limit of something. But what I am really talking about is that it’s the limit of what someone considers to be acceptable behaviour. We all need to be aware of the boundaries and ensure they are working for you. What this means is understanding that you can control the relationships you have and can always say ‘Yes’, or, indeed, ‘No’.
How do you know that you have problems with boundary setting? Well, have any of these happened to you?
- You often say ‘Yes’ when you really want or need to say ‘No’
- You hate letting people down. It eats you up inside when it feels like you have
- You give so much of yourself in relationships that you often feel drained
- You over share personal information and then later on, feel embarrassed or regret it
- You’ve been putting everybody else’s wants before your own needs and desires.
We all deserve to feel happy and fulfilled. And I feel so passionately about this that I am currently working on a workshop to help you set, maintain and if necessary change healthy boundaries. I hope that the workshop will be ready in the New Year. Watch the video below to get an idea of what your will get from it. And, watch this space and resolve to make better, stronger relationships in 2024.
And remember what Robert Frost (American Poet) said in his 1914 poem ‘Mending Wall’, “Good fences make good neighbours”. It’s such a powerful message that it’s become a proverb. Namely, that neighbours are best able to maintain positive relationships when they don’t intrude upon or harm each other’s land. Fences, for example, would restrict one’s livestock your own land.
If this is something you feel you can benefit from then contact me and I would make sure you have more information when the workshop is ready.